The Best Argument(s) We’ve Ever Had (27 Month Update)

November 26, 2012 by  
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Anyone who has been married for a long time knows that “married life” is quite a bit different than “dating life.”  Marriage is a relationship of total acceptance.  It is best to go into it knowing that your spouse has some traits that are truly wonderful … as well as some that are definitely not wonderful.  If the wrong partner has been chosen, the arguments grow and the acceptance shrinks.  Their refusal to listen, communicate, or address annoying habits can close the door on the relationship.

The worst disagreements are born out of the tiniest of reasons.  Even the best relationships contain huge fights over small things.  Couples fight over a lack of eye contact when listening, poor word choice when speaking, and especially the dreaded “perceived” failure to appreciate all the things that a partner has to put up with on a daily basis.  These small things stem from our inherent insecurity.  We want to feel important, loved, and taken care of… especially by those we have chosen to spend our life with. Read more

A Neverending Recovery (25 Month Update)

August 7, 2012 by  
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Our world is a short term world.  It is a world where we concern ourselves with our immediate circumstances.  Most of our time is spent doing work that we wish would get done on its own.  We anxiously await the end of our work week and the excitement we feel about having a little time for ourselves.

Monday morning comes too soon.  We are back at it… each little task we complete like a tiny piece in the larger puzzle of life.  No two weeks are exactly the same, but most weeks are similar to the week before.

Our larger goals are pursued over long periods of time.  When they are accomplished, we take a moment to enjoy our success.  Once that moment passes, there are always new tasks that need completed… new goals to work toward. Read more

8 Nonreligious Reasons a Church Can Aid in Recovery

July 20, 2012 by  
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The best conversations between my wife and I occur on Sunday afternoon.  This past Sunday, we had a long conversation about the purpose of life.  On its face, such a conversation might seem totally ordinary.  It is not.

Two years ago, my wife suffered unexpected tragedy.  The trauma included stroke, cardiac arrest, and traumatic brain injury.  The prognosis for such a trauma did not include walking, talking, or rational thought.  We were told that we’d be lucky to make it out of the ICU alive.

I guess she was one of the lucky ones.  Not only did she leave the ICU… she kept going until she made it all the way home.  Hospital living just wasn’t for her, so she worked tirelessly to strengthen herself enough to live safely in her own home.

Life will never be the same as it once was.  A trip to a store, restaurant, or friend’s home must now be weighed against the potential obstacles.  Our family includes three kids, so our activities must be entertaining for the kids AND accessible for the adults.  What would once have been a night out to a restaurant is now a take-out meal eaten in the dining room. Read more

The Purpose of Occupational Therapy

March 25, 2012 by  
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If the purpose of rehabilitation is broken down into a single statement, it would be the following

“To regain the maximum amount of functional ability.”

In other words, its purpose is to allow a patient the ability to perform as many tasks as possible.  For someone who has never dealt with a therapy patient, it may be hard to imagine the frustration of   Read more

Time for a Change (18 Month Update)

January 12, 2012 by  
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When one reaches a certain age, the daily routines and expectations of life become difficult to change.  We go through the same routines each day as we get ready for work, manage activities, prepare meals, and then eventually wind down for the evening.  Each small pleasure in our typical day elicits warm thoughts in our brain and a happy expression on our face.  The cozy confines of our life are comfortable… they make us feel like we’re living on our own terms.

It is a major shock to realize that a life lived inside our comfort zone may prevent us from the growth that we seek.  We want to move forward in life, but the difficulty of assessing habits and making changes in them prevents us from reaching our goals.  In the self-centered world of the 21st century, it is humbling to realize that the daily habits that we have spent years perfecting may actually be holding us back from the kind of life we desire. Read more

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